Bouncing off Walls

Here’s the deal. I have not written about this. But today is the day. I am the one in my house who has multiple sclerosis. I am the only one who is legally blind. I have limited depth perception and glance off doorways if I am not careful – and I am very cautious – because my lateral perception also is deficient. Yet I survive because I have learned self-preservation.
I am married to a woman who has not. Meredith is a klutz, like a drunken sailor on a bender who collides with stationary objects and is a danger to herself. Last night, while paying a visit to the bathroom, Meredith fell over a suitcase, slamming her head against a dressing table as she plummeted south. The dog was so embarrassed for her he did not even bark. Must have been worried about what the neighbors would say.
The woman is staining the walls, what insects do to windshields. Meredith’s doctor was concerned about a possible concussion and ordered a CT scan. What did they see? I asked. A brain, by any chance? Her doc wanted to know if it had occurred to her to turn on a light.
It may be time to hire a sitter to protect the poor, dottering dear from herself, especially after dark. She is a highly paid professional who long has been a role model for others. Her work on 60 Minutes, Today and now her own show has been a beacon for other woman. A candle in the wind, I say, if she does not wake up and watch where she is going.

83 Responses to Bouncing off Walls

  1. Abby August 11, 2015 at 6:32 pm #

    It’s for reasons like this why I love Meredith so much. Her funny imperfections! I’m just glad she is okay, again!

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:05 pm #

      So far, so good.

      R.

    • Cheryl August 14, 2015 at 11:26 am #

      She didn’t turn the light on because she didn’t want to disturb or wake up Richard!

      • Kelly August 15, 2015 at 2:07 am #

        I don’t turn the light on because I don’t want to wake MYSELF up!!!

    • Barbara Anderson August 14, 2015 at 4:44 pm #

      This made me chuckle about the bathroom falls. My husband and I had tickets to a dinner theatre in Kansas City. So. showering early and planning on having a relaxing time before taking the long 75 mile trip (one way) for the evening entertainment I stepped out of the shower and realized I had not replaced the non skid rugs on the marble floor. In an attempt to toss a towel down for safety reasons…my feet slipped on the wet shower floor, sending me head first onto the marble tub surround. I cried a little….heck no..I cried a lot…especially when I saw the huge amount of blood I was losing. By now I am standing upright and looking in the mirror at a face that used to look like mine…black and blue from the top of my forehead to under my chin…swollen…black and blue..with blood exiting my nose. I called my husband and told him…we wouldn’t be going anywhere tonight and explained my condition. My husband being a typical man said…take a couple of aspirins, get dressed and we can still go to the show…NO ONE WOULD NOTICE! After quite a few words why I couldn’t and his words..every thing will be okay…I decided to go the the show. However, if I bend my head forwards, I will begin bleeding profusely into my salad…but never mind…I’m going! My husband picked me up and we headed to Kansas city…never saying a word about how I looked. At the theatre..first stop bathroom. My toilet paper roll was empty, so I had to switch to the new roll, which didn’t want to move. Finally…toilet paper roll in place I realized..I am in a bent position and there is blood all over the floor. Thank God for the new roll as I hastily attempted to clean the once white floor…now a delicate shade of pink….on with the show. We were first row in the balcony. People were carefully trying to get a look at this horrible…battered looking face. I kept smiling even though it hurt like heck. We then had to troop down the steps …down the long aisle to the gourmet buffet. I dared not lean forward because of the possible nose bleed, while trying to retrieve some food and smile sweetly as the WHOLE WORLD STARRED AT ME. I was terribly afraid the management would ask me to leave the food line..but…no problem…At this point I began grinning at the thought of what people were actually thinking…..”He must have beat the hell out of her.” I almost lost it ..but managed to control the laughter bubbling up inside…what a hoot. All too soon the evening was at an end and we headed back home. I survived Saturday, Sunday and part of Monday, when I was advised to get an x-ray. I did. And to my surprise, I had cracked the floor of my eye socket. I told the medical people it sure hurt. They were surprised I made it this long. It all healed by itself…but the memory of the fall and the evening entrance into Kansas City society will never be forgotten…What a Hoot!

  2. Jan August 11, 2015 at 6:53 pm #

    I love the fact that both of you can laugh at with and at each other!!!!!!!!!!!

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:05 pm #

      I love it, too.

      R.

    • Jan (1) August 11, 2015 at 11:40 pm #

      Uh oh… another “Jan” now? I am the Jan who typically replies and, before now, only saw a “Jana.” Do I now need to call myself “Jan1?”

      • M. LEWIS August 15, 2015 at 6:09 am #

        How much was the ticket last but not lease was this the last show? I couldn’t have done it lol.

  3. Robin Chesser August 11, 2015 at 7:01 pm #

    So glad Meredith is okay, well, except for the cut and blackeye! I’m a total klutz as well, having walked into a corner of a wall in the middle of the night, I now have a Harry Potter scar running down from my scalp onto my forehead.

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:06 pm #

      Sounds fetching.

      R.

  4. Kathie leonardow August 11, 2015 at 7:01 pm #

    Don’t let her climb over the low mower rope on a cement garage floor.. I am more clumsy than Meridith

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:07 pm #

      I pity you.

      R.

  5. Cora August 11, 2015 at 7:04 pm #

    Thank God she is fine and most of all, she went to have herself checked. We had a very sad incident a few years ago that my niece’s husband slipped on his way to the bathroom but next to him were newspapers and magazines and he fell and hit his head on the dresser and woke up my niece but he said to her, it is okay honey, am fine, went back to sleep and in the morning, he started to lose consciousness, rushed to hospital but they told my niece that they could save him probably but he would end up being a vegetable and he wouldn’t want that, and they had to pull the plug. So Meredith happy you went for CT scan. Thank God and your loving husband able to tell about it and of course, you are one of the cluches’ people and just unfortunate. Thank care of yourself. Love your show by the way.

  6. Carolyn Bahosh August 11, 2015 at 7:07 pm #

    I love Meredith… I also love your strong, wonderful marriage!

  7. Karen Evans August 11, 2015 at 7:15 pm #

    I have a nightlight because I am a klutz too and I don’t need to be falling in the middle of the night. I don’t like to turn the bright lights on in the middle of the night.

  8. Renee del Val August 11, 2015 at 7:33 pm #

    Am I the only one who ever fell OUT of bathtub while showering? ( didn’t slip, just fell out) So
    you’re not alone Meredith, I can’t even blame the dark or a suitcase!

  9. Vicki Bensinger August 11, 2015 at 7:49 pm #

    I adore Meredith and can’t believe I haven’t seen her show in ages. I need to put a reminder in my iPhone to alert me when it’s coming on so I can take a break from working to watch it.

    Thanks Meredith for sharing your husbands blog. Richard your writing is so visual I look forward to reading more of your posts. Glad Meredith didn’t seriously injure herself. Although it was comical reading your description. It sounds like slapstick!

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:10 pm #

      It is slapstick.

      R.

  10. Linda Yanchuck August 11, 2015 at 7:54 pm #

    I am so happy Meredith is ok! I knocked myself out getting into my car by hitting my head on the top of the door jam. Luckily I fell into my car 🙂 that should make Meredith feel a little less klutzy lol! I also had a concussion. If you are still looking for a nurse, let me know! (Svugirl on Twitter)

  11. Susan August 11, 2015 at 8:01 pm #

    I have the answer to the nighttime dilemma of not wanting to wake up your spouse (because, I too, am a klutz)…

    Flashlight app on your iphone- it’s a miracle!

    • Richard M. Cohen August 11, 2015 at 8:12 pm #

      Who said she did not want want to awaken me?

      R.

  12. Sue in Tx August 11, 2015 at 8:33 pm #

    Ouch! Self – preservation and the ability to laugh when it hurts. That will keep us all going!

    • Richard M. Cohen August 13, 2015 at 8:10 am #

      Amen.

      R.

  13. Max C August 11, 2015 at 8:47 pm #

    I’m getting a very good laugh reading both your statements. I too am a klutz who can totally understand how this could happen. If you need anymore material let me know! Glad to read no serious damage done!

  14. Nonamous August 11, 2015 at 8:56 pm #

    I’m glad Meredith is okay. I probably wouldn’t have gone to the doctor, but after reading these replies, I will if this happens to me. I’m disgusted by this blog, Richard. It’s not funny if that’s what it was intended to be. It’s very disrespectful to your wife, who has been loyal to you and helpful to you. I like Meredith’s new show, though I didn’t think she was good on The Today Show. It wasn’t a fit for her personality. Next time, write something respectful about your wife, she deserves it. Husbands should show respect for their wives, and wives should show respect for husbands.

    • Jan1 August 12, 2015 at 12:02 am #

      Ouch, both for Meredith and the reply by Nonamous (Anonymous?). I’m seeing a host of new names replying to this… And I’m rather sure that if Meredith had seriously hurt herself, then Richard would not have written in that way. His typical humor is enjoyable to me, not disgusting. Below, Dale has it, I think.

      Richard, I can just hope that you won’t have a home with walls like Onslow and Daisy (“Keeping up Appearances”) — gosh, between the two of you, it’s possible. (I get accused of that possibility by my husband when rounding corners hanging onto woodwork, though I do stay clear of the walls themselves.

      And Nonamous, you should know that many comments are all in good fun, I think. I myself can get rather serious about respect issues–but Richard can get away with much in how he writes, I think — with fun humor.

      And now, seriously, I’m sorry that she went through that. Not fun. (But also perhaps a glimpse into life on our end).

    • Amy Corcoran-Hunt August 12, 2015 at 11:47 am #

      Wow. Typically people with goofy made-up user names have a sense of humor.

    • Richard M. Cohen August 13, 2015 at 8:15 am #

      I showed it to Meredith before it was posted. She thought it was funny, not disrespectful.

      R..

    • Pam August 13, 2015 at 10:51 am #

      I see nothing disrespectful in Richard’s. I’m just assuming but I bet he shared his post with her before he posted. He posted nothing that she hasn’t posted or stated herself many times. Did you not see Meredith’s Tweet–she states: Richard says it best. Their form of batter, humor, admiration, RESPECT and love for each other is a blessing and a delight to follow. Thank you Meredith and Richard for sharing parts of you life.

      • Sharon B August 14, 2015 at 11:53 am #

        OMG , don’t take life so seriously! He wrote this after the fact of knowing she was OK! Life is so much better when you can look at things from a lighter side. They have a wonderful relationship and it’s very obvious they don’t want to make stresses in their life to be the forefront of conversations and write about them in a depressing way, that’s not their style or personalities. If something serious came out of this fall he would have shared what happened and expressed his concern. He in NO WAY was disrespectful. Sounds like your a bit of a downer and not first on a guest list when a fun evening is being planned, you lack a good sense of humor that would dampen a fun time for others. Who would people rather be around? Majority rules…….fun and care free people. Meredith I’m sure shook her head reading your statements.

    • Sue in TX August 13, 2015 at 11:57 am #

      No worries Nonamous! Richard writes with genuine wry wit. And wRy humor is easy to miss, but quite funny when caught.

    • Kim August 14, 2015 at 11:28 am #

      Wow, you need a sense of humor!

      • Sharon B August 14, 2015 at 12:01 pm #

        You are so right, Nonamous needs to lighten up.

    • Sharon B August 14, 2015 at 11:50 am #

      OMG , don’t take life so seriously! He wrote this after the fact of knowing she was OK! Life is so much better when you can look at things from a lighter side. They have a wonderful relationship and it’s very obvious they don’t want to make stresses in their life to be the forefront of conversations and write about them in a depressing way, that’s not their style or personalities. If something serious came out of this fall he would have shared what happened and expressed his concern. He in NO WAY was disrespectful. Sounds like your a bit of a downer and not first on a guest list when a fun evening is being planned, you lack a good sense of humor that would dampen a fun time for others. Who would people rather be around? Majority rules…….fun and care free people. Meredith I’m sure shook her head reading your statements.

  15. Nina August 11, 2015 at 9:01 pm #

    Some things (people) never change.
    Hoping you both stay on your feet for a long time.

  16. Carol August 11, 2015 at 9:27 pm #

    Thank God for you, Richard. Without you to tend to her, she wouldn’t have been able to survive herself. I love Meredith, however she reminds me of me, a tad ditzy. I’m thinking a minder for her might be a prudent idea.

  17. Ellen Beier August 11, 2015 at 9:35 pm #

    Glad Meredith is okay. Love to see you two together you really like and love one another.

  18. Lynda tuma August 11, 2015 at 10:57 pm #

    So glad your going to be okay Meredith.. Love your writing Richard..

  19. dale August 11, 2015 at 11:24 pm #

    Sorry Nonamous, you don’t get it. Hang around for a while and you’ll see the incredibly unique bond these two people share. No disrespect here.

    Every booboo has a story. One that gets better in the retelling.

  20. Yvonne August 12, 2015 at 10:55 am #

    I’m sure Meredith has shared a few funny stories on TV about her husband’s stubborn determination to do things his way despite the physical challenges he is going through. Many of us here have shared embarrassing stories. Nonamous just needs to hang around for a bit. The stories will come out…

  21. Sandy August 12, 2015 at 11:06 am #

    Maybe she was just trying to bond with you.

    How does it go?….Imitation is the sincerest form of flattery?

    Or maybe you are sucking up all the ambient sympathy and she was thinking, “What does a chick have to do around here to get a little attention?”

    Could go either way.
    Sandy

  22. jackie cerand August 12, 2015 at 12:19 pm #

    TOO FUNNY; LOVE HER SHOW, WATCH IT EVERY DAY, AT WORK.

  23. jeff from RI August 12, 2015 at 12:24 pm #

    Richard Cohen is the luckiest man in the world..that’s all I have to say !

  24. Ellen August 12, 2015 at 12:41 pm #

    I love the way you can laugh together at each other!!

  25. Ginny August 12, 2015 at 4:33 pm #

    I love it!!!!! Is Meredith trying out for America’s Got Talent???or Funniest Home Videos?? Perhaps this was a practice session! Seriously, I LOVE her show so hope she is ok!

  26. Anne August 12, 2015 at 5:49 pm #

    Richard, today’s post made me laugh. Glad that Meredith is ok. I can clearly see that you get your strength from your family. Being able to laugh together is the key.

    Anne

  27. Betty August 12, 2015 at 7:19 pm #

    I love the new voices here on the blog. Richard, are you able to see/report on how many individuals visit Journeyman?

  28. Betty August 12, 2015 at 7:20 pm #

    I love all our regulars too!

  29. Denise August 12, 2015 at 7:47 pm #

    hire that sitter!!! love your wife and your writing!

  30. Craig Hines August 12, 2015 at 7:51 pm #

    After all these years I am surprised that Meredith hasn’t figured out from those of us who stumble all the time (finding a small but useful “feature” of the MS life??) that a light is mandatory in the dark of night! Hell, I want klieg lights to get me to the bathroom at 3 AM. The wonderful, funny, talented Portuguese Meredith is not 24 anymore! Give in to the lights! NO, not “Go into the light!!!!” Stay safe… both of you. You are national treasures….

    • Hannah August 13, 2015 at 5:31 am #

      Yeah add them on Mt. Rushmore. Or the side of the Palasades…
      <3

      • Richard M. Cohen August 13, 2015 at 8:22 am #

        How about the $3 bill?

        R.

  31. Christopher August 13, 2015 at 11:14 am #

    The funniest part is that in a home with a person who is legally blind, has difficulty ambulating and probably can’t correct direction fast enough to avoid harm that ‘pops up’ unannounced is not the one who was fated to be tripped up, literally, by everyday obstacles that dot most of our lives. We all have something that can hinder or hurt any of us–no one is immune. If you wanted to be really dark… you could place bets on who should walk under a hoisted piano first.

    I like how enlightening this post is for all of us.

    • Richard M. Cohen August 13, 2015 at 1:04 pm #

      I think people like us learn caution as a self-defense mechanism. I tip-toe through the tulis. M. does not watch where she is headed and likelly will fall in the ditch. My father used to predict I would fall in a manhole.

      Fooled him.

      R.

      • Christopher August 13, 2015 at 3:13 pm #

        Your reply is pretty funny–on a few levels. I was born an observer, so I may have had an advantage ahead of time. Although I have to admit that I’m lucky to have lived past my teens, what with all the crazy spills and falls I took growing up–more than the average kid by a couple orders of magnitude. I also sometimes wonder if all the times I hit my head in my life (and a mugging that almost caved in my left temple from steel-toed boots) might have contributed to developing MS. The jury is still out on that in the neurological community.

        I solidly agree that living with this disease has facilitated a profound, proactive defensive mindfulness.

  32. jan3- August 13, 2015 at 11:21 am #

    I love Meredith and her self -depreciating humor! Richard is a wonderful man!

  33. Sandra August 14, 2015 at 10:28 am #

    Glad Meredith is okay. I once tripped over a space heater and fell head first into a wall.
    There is still a crack in the wall but my head was okay and this was during daylight hours!

  34. Laurie August 14, 2015 at 10:44 am #

    Thank goodness Jasper didn’t bark at Meredith! That would have been adding insult to injury. I am so glad Meredith mentioned this blog on the show, I love Richard’s humor and the replies. I was diagnosed in 2004 and my family and I deal with this wretched disease with a lot of humor.

  35. Jean Low August 14, 2015 at 11:12 am #

    I was watching KLGs & Hoda’s show this morning & thought I saw a black eye on Meredith who was filling in for Cathy Lee. I asked Siri, what’s wrong with Meredith V’s eye & she answered with several websites. Thank goodness for Siri. She got me on to this website & I learned all about it in such a warm wonderful way.

    I’m sorry I’m late to this news item. I love Meredith and have enjoyed seeing Richard whenever he appears with her. Love your humor. Both of yours.

  36. Toni August 14, 2015 at 1:46 pm #

    I LOVE the humor and love between you and Meredith! First time reading this blog but not the last for sure. I can so relate to Meredith, I am the biggest klutz! My husband is afraid if I ever have to go to the hospital he will be accused of abuse for the many bruises I always have!

  37. Jorge lee August 14, 2015 at 11:33 pm #

    The fall was funny, the blog is funnier. I almost peed reading.

  38. ana ch August 14, 2015 at 11:54 pm #

    Found your blog thanks to your wife’s bump. Your are a funny man. Greetings from Costa Rica.

  39. LS August 15, 2015 at 12:09 pm #

    Re: chronic illnesses, disability ( whatever that really means), and getting through each day. I have bone, joint, tendon, scoliosis, failed spinal fusion surgery, broken titanium rod s/p spinal fusion surgery. The problems cascade and one problem or “fix” precipitates another. I am definitely too independent, too proud, too sick of myself. Lonely? Check. Envious of other Middle Agers who run, bike, travel? Check. The medical establishment has done more harm than good and as a nurse I have not been able to successfully advocate or prevent one error after another. And what surprises me is how often advocacy is perceived as demanding or bitching/whining behavior. Why are smart people so reluctant to question a doctor or get a second or third opinion? Path of least resistance?
    So Richard you are lucky to be working and that alone must help with feelings of depression arising from feeling useless- like I often do. I do sense that things are not all that great for you either and it doesn’t make me a genius to deduce that from your dark jests.
    But what does one DO about those feeling when your body will not let you forget?
    No prayer, no bs can change reality.

    • Jan1 August 16, 2015 at 1:52 pm #

      LS, I came back to your post. I do realize that you are querying Richard and not anyone on the blog. Still, knowing that he is busy, and that I’m reading about various forms of pain here, I will respond. Hard to just leave this one be.

      First of all, I am sorry that you are going through, enduring, all that you are. It is so daunting at times, isn’t it? Right now, two relatives are in CA enjoying friends and outdoor activities. (So glad for them, truly). But when I really think about what I cannot do, join in on, miss out on (and cause others to miss, as well), it can be terribly difficult, indeed.

      Today is not a day that I can just deal with it. (I still aim to). I way overdid the whole week and this morning’s outside plant watering and now can hardly walk–ankle, back, and head pain feel serious. (The back pain you mentioned seems even far worse, more all-encompassing).

      I do question doctors. (No living in my mother’s generation of accepting any advice).

      So, what do I do? I myself have my task-oriented agendas. But when health truly interferes–it mostly does, but I push past it—sometimes, I really can’t, as in today—I work to adjust my expectations. I allow myself to sometimes be a bit miserable (inside) for a small time. (I’m human; it can be productive to embrace that). I reach outside of myself, even in a very small way, to help another.

      And then also, I work to know I have value “just because.” I can’t always change my feelings, but I can change my reactions, responses to them (even if in small ways). I will drag myself to the store. You never know—a genuine smile at a stranger could be something that makes someone’s day—simple, yet powerful.

      I can’t walk well. (But I can be a friend over the phone). I’m currently in a load of pain. (Others are, too–physically or emotionally. Back home in IL, I know of a 20-year old who just drowned. Even with a strong faith, how does one cope with losing a child? Not too easily, I suspect).

      As I’ve long said about MS, I can talk about it, answer questions. But I just can’t think about it too long or too in-depth. My body is not letting me forget. So I move beyond it and focus on whatever task is at hand, or important people relationships. I control what I can, value what’s important, and do as I am able within tight boundaries. I simply resist feeling useless “just because.”

    • Sue in TX August 17, 2015 at 12:01 pm #

      LS,

      I personally, had to decide if I truly believed in a higher power and what this faith meant. It is easy for one to say keep the faith but actually doing it when one is suffering is the hard part. Gratitude for family and friends, physical abilities I retain, and small pleasures helps. Surrounding myself with positive life affirming things , books, movies, music, people also helps me. Knowing you are not alone too. There are times of course that I’m not positive. I felt so weak and tired the other day, I started mentally preparing for a flare. I felt such dispair. Then After a bit, I had to shake it off. I can’t miss what I have now.

  40. Janna August 15, 2015 at 12:33 pm #

    How did I not know about this blog!!!!! I have always loved Meredith and now I can love Richard too!

  41. Jan1 August 15, 2015 at 1:38 pm #

    Typically, I am able to see snippets of The Meredith Vieira Show at lunchtime but had missed The Today Show eye escapade (clued in here on this blog). Oh my… just saw the clip of Meredith with Hoda. Very nasty eye area. Similar thing happened to my elderly mom a few years ago (not close enough to Halloween, or she for sure would have scared the kiddos–she fell on a basement floor with her glasses on. Had never seen anything quite like that). Thankfully, both are okay.

    And now that Richard’s blog got some national media attention, I understand why I’m seeing new names here (and am now calling myself “Jan1”). He’s currently rather busy writing his 4th book, so I’ll say that if you’re here out of curiosity, do enjoy Richard’s writing (I do). If here for health issues, then welcome. It’s my only MS connection – because his writing is great, he tells it like it is, and I agree with many of his points re attitude, denial, etc.

    • Jan1 August 16, 2015 at 1:53 pm #

      LS, I came back to your post. I do realize that you are querying Richard and not anyone on the blog. Still, knowing that he is busy, and that I’m reading about various forms of pain here, I will respond. Hard to just leave this one be.

      First of all, I am sorry that you are going through, enduring, all that you are. It is so daunting at times, isn’t it? Right now, two relatives are in CA enjoying friends and outdoor activities. (So glad for them, truly). But when I really think about what I cannot do, join in on, miss out on (and cause others to miss, as well), it can be terribly difficult, indeed.

      Today is not a day that I can just deal with it. (I still aim to). I way overdid the whole week and this morning’s outside plant watering and now can hardly walk–ankle, back, and head pain feel serious. (The back pain you mentioned seems even far worse, more all-encompassing).

      I do question doctors. (No living in my mother’s generation of accepting any advice).

      So, what do I do? I myself have my task-oriented agendas. But when health truly interferes–it mostly does, but I push past it—sometimes, I really can’t, as in today—I work to adjust my expectations. I allow myself to sometimes be a bit miserable (inside) for a small time. (I’m human; it can be productive to embrace that). I reach outside of myself, even in a very small way, to help another.

      And then also, I work to know I have value “just because.” I can’t always change my feelings, but I can change my reactions, responses to them (even if in small ways). I will drag myself to the store. You never know—a genuine smile at a stranger could be something that makes someone’s day—simple, yet powerful.

      I can’t walk well. (But I can be a friend over the phone). I’m currently in a load of pain. (Others are, too–physically or emotionally. Back home in IL, I know of a 20-year old who just drowned. Even with a strong faith, how does one cope with losing a child? Not too easily, I suspect).

      As I’ve long said about MS, I can talk about it, answer questions. But I just can’t think about it too long or too in-depth. My body is not letting me forget. So I move beyond it and focus on whatever task is at hand, or important people relationships. I control what I can, value what’s important, and do as I am able within tight boundaries. I simply resist feeling useless “just because.”

  42. YoureALiar August 15, 2015 at 1:45 pm #

    Don’t like your tone toward this woman you call your wife. Sounds fishy to me.

    • dale August 15, 2015 at 2:54 pm #

      You know nothing Yourealiar. In the Navy they’re called FNGY’s. Go stalk someone else.

    • Amy Corcoran-Hunt August 18, 2015 at 4:27 pm #

      Troll

  43. Jan1 August 15, 2015 at 5:39 pm #

    I’ll jump back after Dale’s comment. (I had to Google that acronym. Oh.) This is not my blog, but I will still say, similarly…

    Real understanding. Misunderstanding (it can happen; we’re human). Growth. Questions. Answers. Questions, yet no answers. Well-placed sarcasm. Humor. Sharing. Laughing. Crying. Joy. Sadness. Connection. Heart. Inspiration. Honesty. A safe spot to “be.” Real names. Initials. Anonymity. Celebrity. No celebrity. Just humans. Relating. Attitude. Differing points of view. Hope. Perspective. Optimism. I think the blog is all of that, and likely more.

    What I don’t see this being is a place for really true nastiness or spam. I retain enough anonymity by not using my last name, though my first name is real. We here are real people, with some rather tough issues. Very tough. Suspicious blog response names and responses are unhelpful to me personally.

  44. Sue in TX August 15, 2015 at 10:06 pm #

    I echo jan. I’m a real person. I ‘m here because I want to hear from others in the club. A club no one picked. Snarky comments by passer bys isn’t welcome by me either.

  45. Christopher August 15, 2015 at 11:34 pm #

    It’s really difficult in this new internet age to know where anyone really stands yet. We all know fairly well how the rules work in the real world, but the virtual world is still fairly unexplored territory.

    People can be careless. They can also cause a lot of discord by feeling they have a right to make comments of their own moral certitude. I for one think you all have handled those comments really well by reminding them that we’re all human, even though it’s a virtual world, and that more consideration is warranted because no one appreciates a visitor being so patronizing.

  46. grandma s August 16, 2015 at 3:11 pm #

    I’ve learned a lot from others on this site. And it’s comforting to know others sometimes feel as I do. When I am having my private ‘pity party’, i can be uplifted by Richard’s thoughts and wit. Keep those responses coming – hold onto those snarky comments – don’t need them.

  47. Cassie August 16, 2015 at 6:51 pm #

    Newbie to your site but I can tell already you are my kind of writer! So sincerely hilarious.

    A little about me: I was born in Palm Springs (grew up on my parents trap and skeet range in Indio in the 70’s) I live in Florida now. Mom, wife, animal lover. The most unhealthy person. Ha. Have no idea what’s wrong with me…but I’m sure I’m dying of something. Aren’t we all, some just more slowly than others.

    C.

  48. Sue in TX August 16, 2015 at 11:01 pm #

    Back to Richard’s writing on Hope. Did anyone see the Adult Hope Scale study found at Fetzer Org? Google it. I thought I understood hope. Now I’m not so sure.

  49. Dale August 17, 2015 at 12:34 am #

    Thanks, hope can sometimes be elusive in all this.
    Most of this group is here to share experiences, commiserate some, and ponder Richard’s thought provoking musings. Most of us could care less whether or not Richard and Meredith are celebrities. This isn’t that kind of fan club. They are real people facing real challenges together. With style and grace.
    The suggestion that Meredith’s black eye was the result of some sort of domestic violence made me laugh. It evoked a vision of a swashbuckling Richard waving his cane around like Errol Flynn.

    No offense Richard, but I think she’d probably kick your butt.

  50. T August 17, 2015 at 11:55 am #

    Dale-

    Lol…I think I just snorted coffee out my nose! Loved your reply.

  51. Sue in TX August 17, 2015 at 1:29 pm #

    Richard’s earlier question about hope and optimism has lingered in my head. It rattled my thoughts or what I thought I understood about me. I don’t speak of hope. To me hope is a wish on a stAr or a candle flame. Life showed me in many many ways that hope always disappointed. So I let hope go. I guess it was out of a feeling of self preservation. It seemed of no use to me and only deepened my wounds. But I am not a curmudgeon! I am pushed forward through my days by optimism. I spit on Voltaire and Know in my soul That the sun will rise again. And when it does, I marvel at the days beauty, and feel gratitude as I breathe.
    So Is it just semantics? Hope vs optimism. Do I really have one without the other?

    • Jan1 August 17, 2015 at 11:09 pm #

      T, I am laughing at that… very funny! (And I’ll chuckle the next time thinking of that at the coffee shop).

      And Sue, in the quiet of the evening now, your post gives me pause to reflect, to question. I won’t attempt to answer (to myself, really), but know I am pondering what you said.

  52. Amy August 18, 2015 at 9:52 pm #

    I also have MS, but I was a klutz long before I was diagnosed. Perhaps if I ad been more athletic like my siblings, or more graceful like a dancer or let’s be honest, like most people, I would have recognized something wasn’t right and been diagnosed YEARS earlier, rather than by “accident” during a “routine” MRI for migraines.

    Over the past couple of years as my balance the feeling in my left foot and leg has become more diminished and my balance has become a little less trustworthy, I have myself taken some entertaining spills. About two weaks ago I tripped in my mud room, on what, I have no idea. Maybe a shoe, the dog, or my own foot or nothing, but even though I feel forward, I somehow managed to land hard on my butt and slam backward into the wall. It was almost acrobatic! I was rather impressed with myself. I also once did a face plant in a picnic area close by an AA group that was meeting in the park that evening. That was awkward. I’m still shocked that they didn’t invite me to their meeting. Actually I often wonder if I don’t “click” with the other hockey moms because they think that I might be a drunk. 😉 I suppose that I should be offended by this, but I actually find it rather amusing.

    I am first of all glad that Meredith is okay. I am also happy that you are both able to find humor in these little incidents that keep life and marriage interesting. Wishing you both the best and many humorous moments to come, but with less blood and bruising!