March 1, 2010
Chronic illnesses suck. They cannot be cured. They can be treated many times, and the sick can live a long time, frequently with a highly compromised quality of life. For the chronically healthy who may not get it or want to, here is what you need to understand the chronic illness experience.
The word to use is “chronicity.” Don’t look for it in any dictionary. It is the creation of Jennifer Jaff who we will interview at a later date. Jennifer lives with both Crohn’s Disease and Gastroparesis, both painful diseases. Jennifer is an expert in chronic illness.
Chronicity is almost a state of suspended animation. We may be in remission now. How long will that last and how bad will we become? We may have a good day, but we wait for the other shoe to drop. I feel there is no stability to my health as I have both Multiple Sclerosis and Colon Cancer.
We need flexibility in our lives, in our jobs and other obligations. But people do not get that and quickly become impatient with us. The system is not meant to accommodate the chronically ill. We exist outside the frame work of how the world works.
The system is set up to handle sick people who get better or die. Lines are pretty clear. The problem here is that none of us gets better and only some of us die. So we find ourselves functioning as square pegs trying to wedge ourselves into round holes. Often it is not a good fit, and we don’t get much help pushing.
Then there is the But you look so good syndrome. Even the most serious chronic conditions can be invisible. Others do not see them, and if you look okay, you must be okay. We live in a culture that worships beauty and physical perfection. People are not comfortable with illnesses or disability. They want us to be healthy.
What is odd about all of this is the staggering numbers of people in this country who live every day with one or two chronic illnesses. Current and credible figures now put the number at about 137 million and growing as we age. That is perilously close to half the population. All of us are touched by a chronic illness. If we do not have one, a member of our family or a friend does. There is no escape, but our eyes are shut tight.
I hold the government responsible for the paucity of serious research on these conditions. The NIH budget is frozen at $29 billion as we spend many multiples of that fighting wars overseas. Toxins and microbes and germs that attack in the night to kill or injure are terrorists by my definition.
And I fault the politicians for allowing the debate on healthcare reform to disintegrate into arguments about numbers without putting a human face on the issue. This is you and me, friends. Chronic illnesses and extended life are what is breaking the system.