There must be anger in the land of the limited. My recent posts suggested that some and only some people relate to the disabled in a patronizing manner. Then I went a step farther, writing that some in the population of the chronically healthy are just plain cruel. That lit a fuse.
I do believe there are a lot of jerks out there. But let me be the first to admit that too often I keep my finger on the trigger, and occasionally the itching gets to me. I believe I am not alone. One reaction to the last post: “It’s the fighting stance that really sucks,” Christopher writes. “Why is (almost) everyone out in the world so combative… so, contentious? It becomes really tiresome, and so difficult to ignore after a while. It’s like there is a war going on and we’ve all been drafted in absentia. Reluctantly.”
Perception becomes truth with all of us. Anecdotes have come flying my way, many suggesting that a chunk of the population has imposed a state of siege on those of us on canes or in wheelchairs. A physician friend accuses me of overstating the problem. I had long suggested that many folks parking their SUVs in our safe spaces are insensitive and angry. I react, and it occurs to me that maybe I am an angry person, too.
What about you?
I do know I am an angry person. Ask anyone in my family. My limitations get to me. Arms and legs, hands and fingers fail me. Gaps in my mind run deep and trip me up. Loss of memory taunts me. I spend too much of my life on edge, though that does not mean I will go postal anytime soon. But the pot is simmering, ,and I try hard to keep a lid on.
We are different people, hanging out on the same battlefield. When others act or speak with cruelty, when people say and do ignorant things, I am amazed we do not react volcanically. All of your horror stories recount measured reactions, though I have to believe the pot boils. But you do it gracefully and show dignity. You are amazing.
Maybe it’s just me with the anger issues. If I am pissed , probably I will over react.
When you observe behavior that offends you but is targeted at someone else, what is your response? I see cars parking in our spaces and get mad., even if we are not parking. I am not defending my own attitude, but maybe we speak in tones that do not convey urgency. Or anger. Turning up the heat may not be such a bad idea.
I am dropping the subject now before too many of you get mad at me.